As someone whose journey with mental health has been transformative, I deeply understand the importance of connection. Life before recovery often felt overwhelming—chaotic, heavy, and isolating. Finding peace and a sense of normalcy wasn’t just a relief; it was life-changing. Through my own struggles, I’ve learned that no one should have to face their challenges alone, and this belief forms the foundation of my passion for supporting others.
The Weight of Isolation
Parenting is a profoundly rewarding but deeply challenging journey. For many, it can also be isolating. It’s easy to feel alone in the struggles, especially when society often glorifies perfection and resilience without showing the messiness behind it all. But the truth is, parenting is messy. It’s full of highs and lows, successes and mistakes, moments of joy, and times of deep doubt.
As a Mi’kmaq woman and a parent myself, I understand the additional complexities that cultural and personal histories can bring into the parenting experience. Generational trauma, advocacy work, and navigating the intersections of identity within Indigenous and queer communities often add layers to the challenges we face.
I’ve seen firsthand the power of connection in breaking through these barriers. Whether it’s through peer support groups, cultural teachings, or one-on-one conversations, sharing experiences with others who “get it” is an essential part of healing and growth.
Breaking Cycles Through Connection
My recovery journey has empowered me to break intergenerational cycles of poor mental health. I’ve learned to recognize old patterns and reach for help when I see myself slipping, but this didn’t happen in isolation. Therapy, cultural reconnection, and the support of people who truly understood my experiences made all the difference.
In my work, I’ve carried this forward by helping parents recognize their own potential for change. One of the most powerful tools I use is my willingness to share my story openly. When I tell parents that I, too, have struggled—with yelling, with unintentional harm, with not understanding my children—they are more open to hearing how they can grow and change. They don’t feel judged because they see that I’ve been there.
This is especially important when working with parents whose children are struggling with mental health challenges. As someone who was once a scared, misunderstood child, I can validate their children’s feelings in a way that resonates. I remind parents that their kids aren’t being manipulative—they’re expressing unmet needs. And when parents understand that, they are more willing to listen, connect, and heal.
Peer Support: A Lifeline for Change
Peer support has been one of the most effective tools in my life and work. Whether it’s helping my younger brother navigate his own mental health challenges, supporting parents through my coaching work, or simply sending messages to remind someone they’re not alone, peer support is powerful. It builds trust, creates safe spaces, and helps people see that change is possible.
One of the most impactful stories I’ve experienced was with my brother, who once struggled with substance use and feelings of hopelessness. Through our conversations, he saw that change was not only possible but worth pursuing. Today, he is sober and thriving, and he credits our connection as a key part of his journey.
The Role of Culture and Community
In my own recovery, reconnecting with my Mi’kmaq culture has been a guiding force. The Seven Sacred Teachings—Love, Respect, Courage, Honesty, Wisdom, Humility, and Truth—have provided me with a framework for healing and growth. These teachings have not only helped me find balance in my personal life but have also informed my approach to parent coaching.
I firmly believe that building community is essential for parents. Whether it’s creating opportunities for parents to connect through support groups, sharing cultural wisdom, or simply reminding someone that they’re not alone, these moments of connection create ripples of positive change.
Moving Forward Together
Parenting is not something we’re meant to do alone. When we isolate ourselves, we miss out on the wisdom, support, and encouragement that others can offer. By building communities of connection, we can create healthier families and stronger, more resilient individuals.
If there’s one thing I hope to achieve in my work, it’s to remind parents that there is always hope. Growth is not always linear, but it is always possible. Through connection, compassion, and shared stories, we can empower each other to be the best versions of ourselves—for our children, for our families, and for future generations.
Let’s build those bridges together, because no one should ever have to parent—or heal—alone.
